Before I begin I would just like to say in this post I will be referring to most, not all, of the guys I personally have encountered on Tinder. My opinion is based off of my experiences and of that of close friends. I will say that if anything in this post does apply to you, that you pay attention. Now that we are done with the pleasantries, we can get to the heart of the matter.
To those who it does concern, you must think that girls are stupid creatures who have no idea how to do anything besides bake pies and have children. My experience on Tinder has been rather limited due to the fact that staying on it longer than a few days makes me feel like I am getting hit in the head with a brick constantly. Below I am going to list out just a few of my observations and how I, as a woman, reacted to them.
1. Catfishing: The fact that you make the effort to catfish on Tinder is astonishing to me. Mainly because most women understand how to use Google Images to see if you are real or not. A simple search in Facebook can also figure that out. Recently I swiped right on an individual who called himself Andrew. In his profile he stated that he won't talk to anyone unless they have Skype. Typical. I will admit that his pictures did lead me to read his profile. I like to be thorough and his pictures were rather attractive. Soon we matched and he messaged me, seeming like a nice guy. Within seconds he asked me for my Skype username. Here is the thing catfishers there are two types of people who refuse to talk to you unless you have Skype: [1]: People who really like you and maybe are a little crazy. OR... [2]: Catfishers who want to throw people off their scent. It is sketchy either way. After starring at his pictures I eventually figured that something was familiar about his face. Mainly the fact that I had seen it before online.
At first I did a simple FB search to see if his name came up. It did not. Red flag #1. After that I took a screen shot of one of his pictures and put it through Google Images. It came up as Guilherme Leao. If you do not remember ladies and gents Leao is a Brazilian model and blew up a little while back due to pictures that circulated the internet of him as a security officer. Promptly, I decided to message Andrew saying "Hey quick question :) Do you enjoy trying to catfish girls on Tinder or are you really Guilherme?" Of course after that he unmatched me. This just perplexes me with the sheer hilarity of the effort this guy had to put in to create a false persona because he has probably been on Tinder as himself and did not see results due to the fact that Tinder is a shallow app that is based on someone liking you based solely on looks initially.
2: Sexual Advances: Most of the sexual advances that have assaulted my eyes have most of the time been due to my appearance. Many guys only talk to me on the app either asking for sex or blatantly saying crass things. Here is the thing... I know that Tinder 9 times out of 10 is a hookup app. The number of friends or acquaintances I have that actually found relationships out of it to those who have not are not odds I'd ever bet on. The problem is I do not let men talk to me that way at all whether it is on some app or at the grocery store. The worst comment I ever received dealt with exoticizing as well as objectifying me. A guy I matched with asked if he could run a hypothetical question by me. Keep in mind he had already remarked on how "juicy" my lips looked. After I agreed to the hypothetical he said "so hypothetically if I were a watermelon... Would you spit or swallow my seeds?" My side eye game was very strong after reading that. I was rendered speechless and simply blocked him. The problem is enough genuine people are not on Tinder. You also have to take into account the shallow factor. Just because someone is attractive does not mean they are nice.
To those who it does concern, you must think that girls are stupid creatures who have no idea how to do anything besides bake pies and have children. My experience on Tinder has been rather limited due to the fact that staying on it longer than a few days makes me feel like I am getting hit in the head with a brick constantly. Below I am going to list out just a few of my observations and how I, as a woman, reacted to them.
1. Catfishing: The fact that you make the effort to catfish on Tinder is astonishing to me. Mainly because most women understand how to use Google Images to see if you are real or not. A simple search in Facebook can also figure that out. Recently I swiped right on an individual who called himself Andrew. In his profile he stated that he won't talk to anyone unless they have Skype. Typical. I will admit that his pictures did lead me to read his profile. I like to be thorough and his pictures were rather attractive. Soon we matched and he messaged me, seeming like a nice guy. Within seconds he asked me for my Skype username. Here is the thing catfishers there are two types of people who refuse to talk to you unless you have Skype: [1]: People who really like you and maybe are a little crazy. OR... [2]: Catfishers who want to throw people off their scent. It is sketchy either way. After starring at his pictures I eventually figured that something was familiar about his face. Mainly the fact that I had seen it before online.
At first I did a simple FB search to see if his name came up. It did not. Red flag #1. After that I took a screen shot of one of his pictures and put it through Google Images. It came up as Guilherme Leao. If you do not remember ladies and gents Leao is a Brazilian model and blew up a little while back due to pictures that circulated the internet of him as a security officer. Promptly, I decided to message Andrew saying "Hey quick question :) Do you enjoy trying to catfish girls on Tinder or are you really Guilherme?" Of course after that he unmatched me. This just perplexes me with the sheer hilarity of the effort this guy had to put in to create a false persona because he has probably been on Tinder as himself and did not see results due to the fact that Tinder is a shallow app that is based on someone liking you based solely on looks initially.
2: Sexual Advances: Most of the sexual advances that have assaulted my eyes have most of the time been due to my appearance. Many guys only talk to me on the app either asking for sex or blatantly saying crass things. Here is the thing... I know that Tinder 9 times out of 10 is a hookup app. The number of friends or acquaintances I have that actually found relationships out of it to those who have not are not odds I'd ever bet on. The problem is I do not let men talk to me that way at all whether it is on some app or at the grocery store. The worst comment I ever received dealt with exoticizing as well as objectifying me. A guy I matched with asked if he could run a hypothetical question by me. Keep in mind he had already remarked on how "juicy" my lips looked. After I agreed to the hypothetical he said "so hypothetically if I were a watermelon... Would you spit or swallow my seeds?" My side eye game was very strong after reading that. I was rendered speechless and simply blocked him. The problem is enough genuine people are not on Tinder. You also have to take into account the shallow factor. Just because someone is attractive does not mean they are nice.
3. Radio Silence: The fact is even if you match with someone on Tinder you may not ever talk. Call me old-fashioned, but I do believe that men should make the first move. This isn't some feminist rally. Say hello. It will not kill you. Clearly we know you have seen our pictures, hopefully read our profiles, and have swiped right. What is the harm in saying a simple hello? It's me. I was wondering if after all these..(Nope). Guys now are so camera shy or simply want a girl to message them first. If I like what I have seen and read to a high enough level I may just message you, but it looks better if you message me first. Side note: It looks better if you actually are saying hello and how are you. If you are just going to say something perverse or lewd then you might as well stay silent.
4. Random Pictures: Most of the time people on Tinder put what they deem their best picture as their main picture. If that main picture is of your dog, cat, torso, car, a stack of money, or of 20,000 people, we are going to assume you are unattractive. Sad, but true. It always cracks me up when a guy has a picture with a girl and feels the need to say that she is his sister or cousin. She is most likely not your sister. She is probably either a girlfriend or a slumber party buddy. If a guy has a picture with him and a kid on his Tinder and notes that the kid is a nephew or niece, what is he trying to prove? Clearly you would not have to put disclaimers on your post if you understood that you can control the pictures people see. Also guys stop complaining about girls asking you how tall you are. If it is not a problem just say it. Don't shame a girl because she wants to know. I'm 5'11, and if you are short it won't work. That is my preference that I am allowed to have.
All in all Tinder tends to be cesspool. The success percentage women with standards and self-respect tend to have on it is minimal. I know two people out of hundreds that have made Tinder relationships work. Ratings wise I'd give it a low D. Ladies being single does not mean you have to compromise yourself. I have been single for nearly 4 years and would rather remain single than date a guy who only sees my lips, hips, and butt. Stay unique, stay loyal, stay beautiful. Be happy.
All in all Tinder tends to be cesspool. The success percentage women with standards and self-respect tend to have on it is minimal. I know two people out of hundreds that have made Tinder relationships work. Ratings wise I'd give it a low D. Ladies being single does not mean you have to compromise yourself. I have been single for nearly 4 years and would rather remain single than date a guy who only sees my lips, hips, and butt. Stay unique, stay loyal, stay beautiful. Be happy.